Cover art by Riya Nagendra, II B.A. English
Quote by Madhuri Lalwani, II B.A. English
Cover art by Riya Nagendra, II B.A. English
As the nation geared up to celebrate its 72nd Independence day and Stella Maris to celebrate its 72nd birthday, the students found themselves without a moment to spare with the Continuous Assessments and making hurried (sometimes secret) phone calls to determine if yet another Wednesday would be declared a holiday. The passing away of regional and national political patriarchs and the devastating floods that almost submerged Kerala shifted the focus from freedom and friendship; the conventional themes associated with August.
Since breaking conventions seemed to be the trend this month, our team followed suit and chose ‘Throwback’ as this issue’s theme. Throwback can mean different things to different people – from poems on a community that was driven out of their homeland during Partition to parents’ and grandparents’ love stories. In a way, reminiscing about the freedom struggle and beaming at the achievements of deceased leaders is also a throw back to a time when national identity wasn’t associated with beating up fellow citizens for eating beef or standing up for the national anthem and this month’s issue tries to bring to light what throwback means to people who have been around for only twenty odd years.
A new feature we have introduced in this issue is ‘Stella in Pixels’ which is a series of photographs that captures the essence of what Stella Maris is and tries to look at the College from the lens of a student. That being said, we hope this issue makes you nostalgic about a time when internal tests and barely making it to classes before the teacher refuses attendance didn’t exist. Happy reading!
-Image – Illustrated by – Diya Padmakumar, I B.A English and Communication Skills
– Zenia Zuraiq, II BSc. Physics
If you are over the age of 18 – which you probably are – you have lived for over 6570 days. You have experienced over 157,000 hours; nine million minutes; 500 million seconds.
And yet, if I asked you to tell me something interesting from each day of your life, each hour you spent – you probably wouldn’t be able to.
Science has proved that we are not the most accurate at reminiscing our past. The rose-tinted view of the past is often far from the reality of the situation. It has been argued that our memories and the way we remember things follow the so called 80:20 rule.
20% of your life makes up 80% of your memories.
It’s a strange feeling- finding out so much of your life doesn’t matter. So much of who you are will be thrown into a proverbial abyss. So many of the books you read, the shows you watch, the jokes you made have crossed over to unreachable places.
It’s a depressing thought; what was so important to you years before won’t matter a few years from now. The names of the people in your tenth standard class. The landline number of your best friend in fifth grade. The promises you made with your third grade girl gang, “we’ll always stay in touch”. The secrets, the fights, the making up to each other. It just doesn’t matter the way it used to.
It’s existential dread. Why do things only to be forgotten? Who will remember me when I can’t even remember myself? What do I even remember? What can I hold on to? What is important to me?
It’s a sigh of relief. The things that seem like such huge, unsolvable problems aren’t going to seem so in a few years. The heartache, the sadness isn’t going to impact the rest of my life. I have probability on my side?
It’s a human feeling. Trying to hold on as hard as you can even as you can feel yourself letting go. Trying to grasp at the ethereal fairies that are our memories. Trying to make every day, every memory count.
It’s weird – how our brains choose to remember things. At the end of the day, all we can really hope for is our memories – whether we remember them or not – are good ones. Because as Ralph Waldo Emerson puts it, “I cannot remember the books I’ve read any more than the meals I have eaten; even so, they have made me.”
– Grace Roshini , I B.Com
– Varishika, I B.Com
As the academic year kicks in, the Students Union is bracing for a fantastic year ahead. Despite their hectic schedule, they allotted a couple of minutes to answer our questions.
Nora: Ever since the first day, I have always wanted to be involved in college as much as I can. In the first year, I was the class rep and in the second year, I was the secretary of the Western Music Club. So I realised that in the third year, I could be a part of the Union with all that I had learnt in the past two years.
Delna: I wanted to see how it works but honestly I want to become a teacher and I feel like one must be able to lead to be a teacher.
Lynda: The first thing that made me want to be a part of the Union is the realisation that sitting around and waiting isn’t going to change anything. The previous Union was a major part of the process. They have mentored us in so many ways and we can’t thank them enough for that. Plus, the kind of support I got from my closest friend is how I ultimately managed to achieve it. Without them, I wouldn’t be here.
Swathi: For me, being a leader is important because I want to help people around me to work better and hopefully, inspire them to be leaders as well. Each day is different and I look forward to something new happening every day, be it good or bad and that itself is an adventure for me.
Rita: I try my best to reach out to people and being a leader is one way of doing that. My earlier experiences in school and other social groups as a team leader gave me the confidence to be a part of the Union.
Ayesha: First of all, I would say it is God’s plan and I am very grateful to the Lord Almighty for giving me an opportunity to be a leader. Family and friends also played an important role. Even as a child, I’ve been encouraged to help others, and to take up leadership roles or opportunities. Being a captain at school also gave me the confidence to take up this post
2) What kind of image do you have about yourself and what do you want others to have about you?
Nora: Currently, I think I am someone who is learning but not yet fully formed as an individual and I would like to be remembered as someone who is loyal, accountable, straight forward and dependable.
Delna: I want to be remembered as someone who is always hyper-active, cheerful and sweet.
Lynda: The way I look at myself before and after becoming part of the union is completely different. I see myself doing all the things which I thought I couldn’t; things which I previously held back from because of doubts. I’d love for everyone to see me as one of them- just another Stella Marian who grabbed this amazing opportunity offered to her and is trying to make the best of it while discovering a whole new side of her in the process.
Swathi: For me, self-confidence and self-respect are things one should never compromise on. I think they walk hand in hand. I want people around me to also be the same way because I want to influence them to think along the same lines.
Rita: I consider myself an empathetic and a positive person and would like to be remembered as a Good Samaritan.
Ayesha: I am a friendly and a cheerful person who does not like any negative emotions. Yeah, I just am a happy person. I want to stay grounded no matter how many feathers are added to my cap.
– Anton Josemiya, I B.A. English
– Shruthi , I B.A. English
We have picked four of our favourite films, all from different film industries in an attempt to somewhat do justice to the beauty that is movies.
1.Kushi (Tamil- Kollywood)
Kushi is a classic romantic comedy movie that released in 2000. The movie stars Vijay and Jyothika who play the lead, along with Vivek playing the role of a comedian.This movie embodies the quote -’’What is meant for you will reach you even if it’s beneath the mountains’’, perfectly. Despite being 2 states apart, the two get into the same college and befriend each other, and after a series of arguments and fights, they realize their love for each other and get together.
2.Oopiri (Telugu- Tollywood)
This story is about a quadriplegic billionaire Vikramadithya (Nagarjuna) and Seenu (Karthi) who assists him. The two go on different adventures together, late night bike rides, parties, and eventually become very close to each other. Vikram helps Seenu out during a difficult phase in his life, this strengthens their bond. The movie showcases the friendship between two completely different people, will make you cry, laugh and root for the characters.
3.Maine Pyar Kiya (Hindi – Bollywood)
Maine Pyar Kiya was Salman Khan’s debut movie and is considered a classic. It is a 1989 Indian musical romance film, directed by Sooraj R. Barjatya and written by Barjatya with M. Ahale. It is the story of 2 friends and their children, who fall in love with each other.It would probably be considered a bad movie by today’s standards (Ae Dil Hai Mushkil levels of awful) but was the movie that shot Salman Khan to fame.
4.Blade (English – Hollywood)
Blade is a 1998 American superhero horror film directed by Stephen Norrington, written by David S. Goyer and is based on a Marvel Comic character. In the film, Blade is a ‘Dhampir’ (the union of a vampire and a human, otherwise called a ‘Vampire’s son’) , he is part-vampire part-mortal, and protects the human race from vampires. One of the first superhero movies of all time, it kicked off the MCU universe that we all know and love and is an entertaining film.
-Riya Nagendra, II B.A. English
Aside from the usual tales a grandmother is known to tell her grandchildren, mine often told me the story of my parents’ meet-cute. An encounter worthy of a movie, it starts off with my mother rejecting a chance to study in the States and choosing instead to work with the villagers of Varanasi. She travelled alone by train to the village of Sevapuri, her heart fluttering nervously (was it her heart fluttering or was it her mother’s; worried for her daughter?), only to be received at the station by someone from the group she was to work with. Of course, that someone was my father, who (according to my grandmother) fell in love with her at once.
I always imagined the scene with sepia overtones or in the style of a typical Bollywood movie from the ‘90s but it tickles me that it happened in full colour, in real life, around thirty years ago. Love stories from different generations are easier to process if they’re in the form of art but it’s always truly incredible to listen to stories of your family members’ romantic escapades.
Some of these tales are so full of the clichés you see in books, it makes you let out a good-natured groan, or go “oho!” and you wonder if Oscar Wilde wasn’t right in saying that life imitates art far more than art imitates life. Sharu’s parents, for example, come from different ends of the country (one from Kerala and the other from Assam) and their marriage was initially opposed – a tale as old as time; but love like that can’t be denied for long!
Those of us who had crushes in high school, only to be told off by our parents, (“There’s time for that later, focus on your studies now!”) will enjoy this one about Nevedetha’s mother’s classmates who were just twelve years old when they fell in love and, of course, everyone thought they were crazy and tried talking them out of it. Their parents, as expected, were worried about their academic prowess but they proved everyone wrong by topping their class (in fact, both of them competed with each other for the first rank) and keeping their relationship strong. Despite a few fallouts here and there they always ended up back together – and have now been together for 33 years!
There are also different kinds of love to be considered, especially when arranged marriages are concerned. There are so many cases of amiable companionship, rather than something that would be traditionally classified as being ‘romantic’, and these relationships are no less – they take a certain amount of respect and empathy. Falling in love can sometimes be very easy (especially if, like my grandmother, you’ve lived next door to your partner all your life), but relationships can be tenuous – they need care. Things have changed between this generation and the past ones and so have people’s needs – especially since we’re becoming more aware of what we, as women and humans, are capable of doing. There’s a balance between independence and commitment that’s hard to strike – but it always helps to sit down (preferably with a cup of tea and some murukku) and talk to your parents, grandparents, and numerous aunts and cousins about their experiences.
Their stories live on and you learn a little more about life.
-N. Pushpamithra, II B.A. English
The morning was cold
and so was he.
His voice which brought warmth to our hearts;
could be heard no more.
Like the angel he was;
he ascended the stairway to heaven.
Leaving us crying and our paths diverging.
Everyday spent with him
there was laughter everywhere,
but now it feels like even the wind is still.
Not wanting to forget him;
Not wanting to let him go;
Made us wonder,
will we ever be able to get over him?
-Revathy, II B.A. English
-Swetha, II B.A. English